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Present Over Perfect

#PresentOverPerfect2019
"Get good grades, finish school, go to college, get a job, get married, buy a house, have kids." That's what the "typical" life should look like, isn't it? That's what we're all expected to do. We often refer to these events I just mentioned as being the "most important days of our lives". But, what if we don't follow that path; are we doomed to be unsuccessful and unhappy? Sounds a little crazy doesn't it? So, why do we put so much pressure on people to achieve each of these "milestones"?

Family picture @ Nick and Amber's wedding
Family picture @ Nathan and Connie's wedding

This summer, I was so incredibly honored to witness both of my brothers marry the most wonderful women; so beautiful inside and out. Each celebration was absolutely magnificent and believe me, I am very happy for all of them. It was quite a heavily emotional summer and I still get teary-eyed (tears of joy of course!!!) when I look back at wedding pictures because I am just so darn proud of my brothers and the fine men they've become. With BOTH of my YOUNGER brothers now married however, I knew that I'd be asked when my turn would come around...and I was of course. I've been asked this type of question time and time again over the last 7 years; when are you going to settle down, move home, find someone, get married, buy a house, have kids...I wish I got paid every time someone asked me any of those questions, because I'd probably have a nice little stash of dough by this point! Trust me, I have absolutely no problem doing any of these things, and maybe one day I will, but should I solely live my life focusing on them?

Left: Nick, Amber, Naia and Ray Ray, June 21st 2019
Right: Nathan and Connie, July 13th 2019

I was on the path to living a "typical" life until about 7 years ago. I worked very hard in school and got good grades, I earned scholarships and went to college, I got a well-paying full-time teaching job...but then I decided to go live and work abroad. At that time, not many people I knew did that kind of thing and to many of my family, friends and colleagues, this decision to leave Canada, a successful position and a "typical" life seemed a little absurd. Having gone on 4 humanitarian trips and worked with some very diverse students in my first 5 years teaching though, I just couldn't resist the pull I felt to travel the world and to learn about all sorts of different cultures.

Nikki and I on my first humanitarian trip to the Dominican Republic back in 2008

I have experienced many things over the last 7 years that I may not of had the chance to experience if I hadn't been brave, taken a risk and ventured off alone back in 2012. I've travelled to over 30 countries on 5 continents, I've seen all 7 world wonders, I've ran 4 marathons, I've gained some great experience both as an educator and a fitness instructor and, well, I'd like to think that most people would agree that I've become one-heck of a hard-working athlete. Best of all though, through my numerous experiences, I have connected with some outstanding people all over the world; some with whom I will undoubtedly be life-long friends. I have created the most special memories in the most spectacular places with family, friends and colleagues because I took a chance at deviating from the "typical" life.

Sarah, Calyn and I on my spontaneous trip to Iceland

Our minds are often so set on "end" goals that we forget to live in the moment and enjoy the process. As a goal-setting perfectionist with high expectations who wants to please everyone, I've often felt trapped by the pressure of these "end" goals which has caused me quite a lot of anxiety and guilt believe it or not. I have had to remind myself over and over again that life, and happiness for that matter, is indeed a journey, not a destination.

Me racing in the early morning in the United Arab Emirates

I have no idea where I am headed (well, besides for "Paradise Island" in a few weeks), but I know that all the things I will get to experience along the way will be memories that I will cherish forever.

Jessica and I in her home country of Colombia

"The world will tell you how to live, if you let it. Take up your space. Raise your voice. Sing your song. This is your chance to make or remake a life that thrills you." 
- Shauna Niequist


Comments

  1. The DavidSeptember 16, 2019 at 3:19 PM

    Be the one you want to be; it is all there in front of you.

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  2. larrySeptember 16, 2019 at 5:22 PM

    I love this Nat! I could read your blog all day!

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